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The Career Conversation You Keep Having With Yourself at 2am and Why It Won't Stop Until You Do This
Today, we're talking about something that's been coming up constantly in my conversations with women lately, and I think it's one of those things a lot of people are quietly carrying without much language for it: that career conversation you keep having with yourself at 2am, and why it won't stop until you do this one thing. Let me set the scene. It's somewhere between 11pm and 3am. There's no major crisis, you're not falling apart, you're just lying there and the same thought surfaces again. The one that's been surfacing for weeks, maybe months, maybe longer than you'd like to admit. Something just needs to change. And then immediately the other part kicks in. The part that runs the numbers, reminds you of the mortgage, tallies everything you've built and everything you'd be risking. So you loop. You fall asleep. And a few nights later, it starts again. The hardest part? You're not even sure what you'd be changing to. There's no clear alternative waiting. Just a feeling that something isn't quite right, and a whole set of invisible filters quietly narrowing what you let yourself imagine. This episode is about what's actually keeping that loop running, because it's almost never what you think it is. I'm walking you through the real reason the 2am conversation won't resolve itself: the moment you realise you've been unconsciously collapsing two completely different questions into one, the question of whether to explore what's possible and the question of whether to blow up your career entirely, and why that makes it genuinely impossible to move. I also name the quieter thing underneath all of it, the shame that makes wanting something different feel like a verdict on every choice you've already made, and why that framing is costing you more than you realise. And I share a client story that might completely reframe what you think you're looking for. I also share three things I want you to take away from this episode: you are not confused, you are conflating two different questions; you are not ungrateful, you are evolving; and you do not have to have the answer before you're allowed to ask the question. Clarity doesn't come from deciding before you've had the chance to look. It comes from finally letting yourself look properly. As part of my body-mind maturation coaching training, I have a small number of free practice sessions available. If you're curious about what this work feels like from the inside, I'd love to offer you a taster. You can apply here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc7LlSH8u-v3j82uuXQcbd29RC6ttPeLFqUzBTAFAGifooh6A/viewform?usp=header I'm also creating a free resource, What the Future of Work Means for Your Career (Especially If You Suspect Your Current Path Has an Expiry Date). Sign up here http://siobhanbarnes.com/what-the-future-of-work-means-for-your-career For all the show notes and links mentioned in this episode, head over to: https://siobhanbarnes.com/149
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