Is My Child A Monster? A Parenting Therapy Podcast
Leslie Cohen-Rubury
Podcast
Episodes
Listen, download, subscribe
Krystal & Burt Part 1 of 3: When Kids Pick up on Marital Tension
There is so much going on in a family between raising the kids, making a living to provide for the family and managing a household. In today’s session, we meet Krystal and Burt, a family based in the UK who have 2 children, 12 year old Mat, and 8 year old Margo. They recently moved to a rural farm with animals that they also raise. Making time for the kids, making time for the relationship and running their lives is what Burt called “volume overload”. And it is through that lens of “volume overload” that we unpack the sibling rivalry between the kids. Time Stamps 7:33 Assessment to help understand what’s going on with Sibling rivalry 12:48 The stress of being a neurodivergent parent - ADHD and Dyslexia 19:20 Things can be easier when one parent is in charge compared to when both parents are present 20:17 Tension between parents: When parents feel unsupportedWhen parents feel dismissedWhen parents don’t want to be the ‘bad guy” 24:10 Parenting styles are a compilation of who you are and the experiences you had in your childhood 24:50 How to tolerate the differences 25:45 What part do I need to radically accept and what part do I need to change27:15 How do you as a parent like to be appreciated? (words, back rubs, hugs etc) 28:38 The tension of not being appreciated can be addressed with check ins 29:45 Step away from the problem in order to solve the problem - Relationships need nourishment 31:10 What small ways can you create emotional connection in busy lives Build up the strengths and the emotional connection35:10 Mindfully acknowledging each other on entering or exiting a roomPlay a simple game between you and your partner 35:40 The children will learn that a relationship takes connection. Model those small ways of connecting to help nourish the relationship 38:45 Relationships are so hard. 40:40 The pain of the relationship can be in service of our healing We pick people who are going to help us grow as the pain in the relationship shows up. Children help us grow as a human being We bring our own pain from childhood to our current relationships44:45 Parents can feel “volume overloaded” 45: 30 Practice some mindfulness exercises that help ground you 47:35 Balancing the dilemma/tension of getting through the present moment and at the same time planning goals for the future. 48:44 Metaphor of a tree with roots - root yourself and ground yourself in your daily life with mindfulness and connection and small little breaks 50:59 Turning the family structure upside down 52:20 Connection is so important and understanding the effects of disconnection Leslie-ism: Take a moment to root yourself in your daily life through connection. Resources: For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie’s work on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and YouTube. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences. Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Camila Salazar, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Graphics and Website Design by
Is My Child A Monster? A Parenting Therapy Podcast RSS Feed
