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Ruth Vercoe
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037 Sibling Conflict & Play Schemas: A Guide for Parents of Toddlers
Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here! Is your home filled with cries of “Muuuum, he took my toy!” or “She wrecked it again!”? If so, you’re definitely not alone and you’re absolutely in the right place. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play Through Play Schemas, we’re diving deep into a topic every parent of more than one young child knows all too well: sibling conflict. But instead of seeing these daily dust-ups as something to avoid or “fix,” we’re reframing them as one of the most powerful learning tools in your child’s development. Here’s what most parenting books don’t tell you: Those toy squabbles, turn-taking tussles, and boundary battles between siblings aren’t signs that you’re failing as a parent... they’re signs of growth in action. And when you understand the hidden force behind many of these clashes... play schemas... everything starts to make a whole lot more sense. In this episode, we’ll unpack: What play schemas are (like trajectory, positioning, transformation)Why sibling conflict often happens when children’s schemas are clashingHow these repeated play urges are actually healthy and developmentally appropriateHow you can recognise the why behind behaviours, not just the whatWhy these everyday moments help build empathy, boundaries, and emotional intelligenceYou’ll also walk away with 7 practical tools you can use today: How to pause and observe without immediately stepping inWhat to say when your kids both want the same toy, without taking sidesHow to narrate neutrally and coach instead of controlWhy naming emotions helps both children feel seen and heardModelling “I” statements for calmer communicationCreating a calm-down space that actually works (and isn’t a punishment)The power of reflecting after conflict for deeper learningWhether your little ones are 1 or 5, this episode is packed with real-life insight and practical strategies to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting siblings, through a lens of connection, not correction. We know you’re busy, probably listening while folding washing or wrangling nap time, so we’ve made this episode warm, supportive, and straight to the point. You’ll finish feeling empowered, not overwhelmed. You’re not raising “naughty” children. You’re raising learners. Explorers. Humans-in-training. And conflict , especially between siblings, is one of the richest (albeit noisiest!) classrooms they’ll ever have. So next time you hear “Muuum, he hit me!” take a breath, and remember: it’s not just noise. It’s learning in motion. Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an insight, share it with a fellow parent, and come connect with me on Instagram @play_schemas for daily toddler tips and schema stories. Download your FREE chea Send us Fan Mail Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!
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