Breakup to Blessing
Sylvia Suwan
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The Push-Pull Cycle: Understanding Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Do you find yourself in a push-pull relationship - where someone pulls you close, then suddenly pulls away? Or maybe you've realised you're the one doing it. In this episode, I'm breaking down the fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganized attachment) - what it actually is, how it shows up in relationships, and why it can feel so confusing for both partners. I'll walk you through the signs of feardful avoidant attachment, what's happening internally for someone with this attachment style, and why the push-pull dynamic happens in the first place. I also share a personal story from my own relationship about how I broke the cycle - and explain the difference between what you're responsible for and what the relationship is responsible for. In this episode: What fearful avoidant attachment (disorganised) actually is Signs someone has a fearful avoidant attachment style What's happening internally when a fearful avoidant partner pulls away How to support a fearful avoidant partner without losing yourself in the process Why you can't "manage" someone into secure attachment What belongs to your attachment wounds vs. what belongs to the relationship A personal story about how my husband and I broke our own push-pull cycle Whether you're dating someone or were previously with someone with fearful avoidant attachment, in a relationship with a fearful avoidant partner, or suspect this is your own attachment style, this episode will help you understand what's really going on - and give you practical steps on what you can actually do about it. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Sign up to Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/breakuptoblessing
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