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#194 Transformation and comfort do not live in the same house: rethinking comfort zones, familiarity, and change
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Transformation and comfort rarely go hand in hand, especially when it comes to overcoming compulsive hoarding. In this episode, I talk honestly about why making real change means facing discomfort, based on a quote from Healing Justice London that “transformation and comfort do not live in the same house”. I challenge us to identify the difference between familiarity and comfort, and share practical ways to push through those tough moments - because growth comes from getting a bit uncomfortable. If you’re tired of mistaking chaos for comfort, this one’s for you. “Transformation and comfort do not live in the same house” (Healing Justice London) The universal truth behind the idea The necessity of discomfort for real transformation Discomfort Versus Comfort in the Hoarding Context Familiarity as a source of “comfort” for those who hoard Risks of equating familiarity with true comfort The need for change and its inherent discomfort Examples of positive outcomes after embracing discomfort The Reality of Discomfort in Dehoarding Emotional and physical challenges of dehoarding Potential for overwhelming feelings and anxiety Catastrophising and perfectionism surrounding decision-making Emotional toll of letting go and possible identity implications Acknowledgement that discomfort does not mean failure Familiarity Versus Authentic Comfort Distinction between feeling comfortable and something being familiar The false sense of control and security provided by clutter The actual consequences of living in a hoarded home: Physical hazards (tripping, blocked access, risk in emergencies) Social isolation and shame Lack of practical comfort (e.g., not sleeping in one’s own bed) The hidden, ongoing “slow burn” of stress and discomfort Motivation and Community Importance of recognising the true discomfort of living with hoarding Community connections via the podcast and accountability Zoom sessions Methods to share resources and reduce isolation Reframing Discomfort as Growth Viewing discomfort as a sign of progress rather than a warning The parallel discomforts of both dehoarding and continuing to hoard Making conscious choices between competing difficulties Strategies for Managing Discomfort Taking small, manageable steps to build resilience Being gentle and compassionate with oneself during the process Reaching out for support (friends, family, therapist, peer groups) The use and benefit of accountability sessions The Broader Benefits of Transformation Improved physical space and wellbeing Increased self-confidence and pride Better relationships and decreased shame Regaining practical functionality and freedom at home Enhanced overall quality of life Practical Suggestions and Further Resources Trying a small, uncomfortable but positive task today References to previous episodes for deeper exploration: Sitting with discomfort and distress tolerance (Episode 49) Building resilience (Episode 70 with Dr. Jan Eppingstall) Links Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems Podcast ep 70: Resilience and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology Enough, the Podcast Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast Subscribe to the podcast Subscribe to the podcast here Buy your copy of Everything You Need to Know About Hoarding by Dr Lynne Drummond at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding, and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. #ad
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