You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD
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You Are Not Broken

Empowering women (and the partners who love them) to live their best mid lives. Combining the power of mind-work, body-science and relationships, I joyously smash the societal barriers that are keeping us from living our best intimate lives. Whether you are young or past menopause, single or in a long-term relationship, it is never too late or too early to realize YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. With humor, candor and ease, I break down the stories that we have been told about being sexual beings, to help us play, and normalize our intimacy and health. Nothing in this podcast is personal medical advice, of course.

  1. 4D AGO

    312. The Pleasure Prescription: Vibrators

    In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Dr. Kelly Casperson sits down with Lara Pack, founder of Elixir Play, to explore why it’s time to take vibrators seriously—as both a pleasure tool and a legitimate part of women’s health. Lara opens up about her personal journey from navigating painful sex due to endometriosis to creating a high-quality vibrator company focused on thoughtful design and real-world results. Together, they unpack the stigma still surrounding female pleasure, how cultural and religious messaging shapes our understanding of sexuality, and why quality matters more than price when it comes to vibrators. They also dive into: The surprising interest from men in women's pleasure products Challenges with big-name companies entering the vibrator market The role of communication in improving sexual wellness Why research matters when it comes to vibrators and health outcomes How well-designed pleasure products can meet diverse needs This conversation is a must-listen for anyone ready to challenge outdated norms, elevate the discussion around women's pleasure, and embrace vibrators as a powerful tool for healing, connection, and empowerment. 🎯 Health & Wellness Vibrators can play a significant role in women's health and wellness. Research shows vibrators can improve pelvic health. The experience of using a vibrator is both psychological and physiological. There is a need for more studies on the health benefits of vibrators. ✨ Personal Empowerment & Stigma Lara’s journey to creating Elixir Play was influenced by her own pain and stigma. Many customers share stories of healing and empowerment through vibrator use. Empowering women to explore their pleasure supports overall well-being. Education is essential for breaking down sexual health and pleasure stigma. Cultural and religious backgrounds shape perceptions of sexuality and pleasure. Stigmas often stem from concerns about male partners' feelings. 🛠 Product Quality & Industry Insight Quality and customer service are crucial in the vibrator industry. Investing in well-designed products enhances the experience of pleasure. Big companies often prioritize profit over product quality and authenticity. Designing pleasure products should consider individual anatomy and preferences. 💬 Communication & Shifting Perspectives Communication about pleasure is key to sexual satisfaction. Vibrators can enhance sexual experiences for both partners. A growing number of men are purchasing vibrators, showing a shift in attitudes toward women's pleasure. The conversation around female pleasure is evolving but still faces barriers. Understanding the science of pleasure helps destigmatize its use. http://elixirplay.com/ and use code NOTBROKEN20 for 20% off. Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Waitlist is open To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first order. For an additional $5 off Via, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    46 min

  2. APR 6

    311. Two Doses, One Relationship: A Couple on Testosterone

    In episode 311 of the You're Not Broken podcast, Kelly Casperson, MD, hosts Marcella Hill and her husband to discuss their journey through hormonal changes and their impact on their relationship. They explore the challenges of libido loss, the role of therapy, and the transformative effects of testosterone therapy. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding hormonal health in relationships and the awakening of self-awareness that comes with it. I n this conversation, Marcella Hill and Dr. Kelly Casperson explore the complexities of libido, sexual shame, and the transformative power of hormones in midlife relationships. They discuss the importance of self-discovery, emotional honesty, and the need for patience in navigating personal and relational growth. The dialogue emphasizes that pleasure and desire are not solely for others but are essential for individual fulfillment and connection. Takeaways The relationship was initially strong but faced challenges due to hormonal changes. Libido loss can lead to feelings of anxiety and disconnection in relationships. Therapy can help with communication but may not directly address libido issues. Medical interventions, like hormone therapy, can significantly impact well-being. Testosterone therapy revitalized Marcella's energy and libido, transforming her relationship. Awakening to a new self can create challenges in long-term relationships. Couples can navigate hormonal changes together for better understanding and support. Increased awareness of hormonal health can improve communication and intimacy. Hormones play a crucial role in mental health and overall well-being. Understanding the effects of hormones can lead to proactive health measures. Women often feel shame about their sexual desires. Listening to uncomfortable content can help challenge sexual shame. Orgasm is not just a sexual act; it's about personal joy and passion. Women deserve to feel turned on for their own pleasure, not just for others. Men's enjoyment in relationships often comes from seeing their partner's pleasure. Communication about sexual needs is crucial for both partners. Exploring sexuality can enhance intimacy and connection in relationships. Emotional honesty leads to a more expansive and fulfilling relationship. Hormone therapy can reignite passion and feelings in midlife. Learning to feel emotions is essential for personal growth and connection. https://marcellahill.com/ https://www.instagram.com/beingmarcellahill https://www.wakeherup.co/welcome Sedona in October - only three slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Waitlist is open To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first order. For an additional $5 off Via, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    50 min

  3. MAR 30

    310. Redefining Masculinity and Safety

    In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Kelly Casperson, MD, engages in a deep conversation with Traver Boehm about redefining masculinity, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the journey of helping men navigate their feelings and relationships. Traver shares his experiences from the Year to Live Project, the impact of his book on men's lives, and the necessity of creating safe spaces for women. The discussion also touches on the differences in how men and women perceive safety and the importance of understanding these perspectives in fostering healthier relationships. In this conversation, Kelly Casperson, MD, and Traver explore the complexities of emotional awareness, therapy for men, gender differences in relationships, the evolving independence of women, and the foundational role of sexuality in partnerships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness in managing emotions, the need for therapy that resonates with men, and the societal shifts that have changed relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of understanding and communication between genders to foster healthier relationships. In this conversation, Traver and Dr. Kelly Casperson explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the business aspects of marriage, the importance of communication, the impact of pornography, and the challenges surrounding menopause. They emphasize the need for emotional maturity and understanding in relationships, advocating for open discussions about sexual satisfaction and the human experience. The dialogue highlights the evolving dynamics between men and women, the significance of consent, and the necessity of education regarding women's health issues. Traver's IG Man Uncivilized Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 30% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    1h 15m

  4. MAR 23

    309. SHEMD - PCOS, Endo And The Fight For Women's Health Care

    In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Dr. Kelly Casperson engages with the co-founders of the SheMD podcast Mary Alice Haney and Dr. Aliabadi, discussing their journey in women's health advocacy. They explore the challenges women face with conditions like endometriosis and PCOS, the importance of education in healthcare, and the need for better diagnosis and treatment options. The conversation highlights the systemic issues in women's health and the role of podcasts in empowering women to advocate for their health. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of PCOS and endometriosis, discussing the importance of accurate diagnosis, the role of insulin resistance, and the need for innovative solutions in women's health. They emphasize the significance of validating patients' experiences and the impact of education in empowering women to advocate for their health. The discussion also covers hormone replacement therapy, addressing common myths and misconceptions, and highlights the necessity of treating both PCOS and endometriosis for better health outcomes. Takeaways The SheMD podcast was born out of a desire to help women navigate health issues. Endometriosis is a common yet often misdiagnosed condition affecting many women. Education is key in empowering women to advocate for their health. Many women experience chronic pelvic pain without a proper diagnosis. The healthcare system often dismisses women's health concerns, leading to delayed treatment. Laparoscopic surgery is the gold standard for treating endometriosis. Robotic technology could revolutionize women's health care. Women need to be informed about their health conditions to seek appropriate care. The emotional toll of chronic health issues can lead to depression. Advocacy and awareness are crucial in improving women's health outcomes. 75% of women with PCOS are undiagnosed. PCOS and endometriosis often coexist. Insulin resistance is a key factor in PCOS. Validation of symptoms is crucial for patients. Education can empower women to advocate for their health. Hormone replacement therapy can be beneficial for women with PCOS. Diet and exercise alone may not suffice for PCOS management. Innovative platforms can help diagnose and manage PCOS. Women often feel dismissed by healthcare providers. Understanding the metabolic aspects of PCOS is essential. Mary Alice Haney IG Dr. Aliabadi IG SHE MD IG SHE MD Podcast Sedona in October - only a few slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Check it out! To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    1h 6m

  5. MAR 16

    308. Sex As A Flow State

    In this episode, Dr. Kelly Casperson and Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the evolution of sexual satisfaction, exploring the concept of 'good enough sex' and the pursuit of deeper intimacy through the flow state. They emphasize the importance of safety, communication, and connection in relationships, while addressing common barriers to sexual desire such as complacency and societal expectations. The conversation highlights the need for couples to actively engage in their sexual lives and prioritize emotional safety to enhance their experiences. In this conversation, Emily Jamea and Kelly Casperson, MD, explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, focusing on the concept of flow state, the importance of preparation and communication, and the impact of self-identity on sexual expression. They discuss how reconnecting with innate qualities can enhance intimacy, the role of novelty and curiosity in maintaining desire, and the balance between connection and independence in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the significance of touch and the need for effective communication to foster deeper connections. Takeaways Dr. Jamea's book offers a next-level perspective on sexual satisfaction. The honeymoon phase is temporary; couples seek more than just 'good enough' sex. Flow state is crucial for experiencing heightened sexual satisfaction. Safety in relationships is foundational for women to enjoy sex. Communication is key to understanding each partner's needs and desires. Complacency is a major barrier to sexual desire in couples. Sex should be seen as an opportunity for enjoyment, not obligation. Gender socialization impacts women's perceptions of their sexual desires. Attunement between partners enhances sexual satisfaction. Creating rituals for connection can improve intimacy and sexual experiences. Flow state requires a balance of challenge and skill. Too much novelty can lead to anxiety in relationships. Preparation and communication are crucial for intimacy. We are born with qualities that enhance our sexual experiences. Self-identity significantly impacts sexual expression. Novelty in life can enhance sexual experiences. Touch is essential for relationship satisfaction. Emotional connection is vital for sexual desire. Gentle communication can improve intimacy. Understanding dynamics of desire can enhance relationships. Anatomy Of Desire by Dr. Emily Jamea Sedona in October - only a few slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Check it out. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    47 min

  6. MAR 9

    307. Doctored - Charles Piller and Fraud in the Quest to Cure Alzheimer's

    “Demonstrates how some of the most accomplished and elite scientific gatekeepers may have lied, cheated, squandered trust and endangered lives.” —The Wall Street Journal In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Dr. Kelly Casperson interviews investigative journalist Charles Piller about his newly released book, 'Doctored,' which delves into the misconduct in Alzheimer's research. They discuss the amyloid hypothesis, the role of whistleblowers, the FDA's controversial drug approvals, and the systemic issues in medical research. Piller emphasizes the importance of scientific integrity and the need for independent oversight in research while also exploring emerging theories in Alzheimer's treatment and the impact of lifestyle factors on prevention. Takeaways The amyloid hypothesis has dominated Alzheimer's research but has significant flaws. Whistleblowers play a crucial role in exposing misconduct in scientific research. The FDA's approval process for drugs can be influenced by industry relationships. Lifestyle factors such as diet and exercise can impact Alzheimer's risk. There is a growing interest in alternative theories for Alzheimer's treatment. AI can assist in detecting research fraud but also poses risks for falsification. Misinformation in health media can lead to public harm and confusion. Independent agencies are needed to investigate scientific misconduct effectively. The scientific community must improve transparency and accountability. There is hope for progress in Alzheimer's research despite current challenges. Sedona in October - only a few slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Thanks to our sponsor Sprout Pharmaceuticals. To find out if Addyi is right for you, go to addyi.com/notbroken and use code NOTBROKEN for a $10 telemedicine appointment. See Full Prescribing Information and Medication Guide, including Boxed Warning for severe low blood pressure and fainting in certain settings at addyi.com/pi To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    51 min

  7. MAR 2

    306. Naomi Watts - Dare I Say It

    In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Kelly Casperson, MD, and Naomi Watts discuss the complexities of menopause, the intersection of infertility and hormonal changes, and the importance of education and self-advocacy in women's health. Naomi shares her personal journey of writing her book, 'Dare I Say It,' aimed at providing a fun and informative guide for women navigating menopause. The conversation highlights the need for open discussions about hormonal health, the challenges women face in the medical system, and the shift in societal narratives around aging and empowerment. Takeaways Naomi Watts wrote a book to help women feel less isolated during menopause. Menopause can intersect with infertility, creating unique challenges. Women often suffer in silence due to societal expectations. Education and advocacy are crucial for navigating menopause. Self-advocacy is essential in healthcare for women. The narrative around aging is shifting towards empowerment. Hormonal changes can significantly impact women's health. Community and shared experiences can alleviate feelings of isolation. The media has historically created fear around hormone therapy. Women are increasingly taking control of their health and wellness. Dare I Say It by Naomi Watts Naomi Watts IG Stripes Beauty by Naomi Watts Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Thanks to our sponsor Sprout Pharmaceuticals. To find out if Addyi is right for you, go to addyi.com/notbroken and use code NOTBROKEN for a $10 telemedicine appointment. See Full Prescribing Information and Medication Guide, including Boxed Warning for severe low blood pressure and fainting in certain settings at addyi.com/pi To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first order. For an additional $5 off Via, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    36 min

  8. FEB 23

    305. Make Love Not Porn - Cindy Gallop

    In this engaging conversation, Cindy Gallop shares her journey from a successful marketing career to founding Make Love Not Porn, a platform aimed at normalizing and destigmatizing sex through real-world demonstrations. She discusses the challenges faced in the adult content industry, the importance of communication in sexual relationships, and how her platform has positively impacted countless lives. Gallop emphasizes the need for societal change regarding sexual attitudes and encourages open discussions about sex to foster healthier relationships. In this conversation, Cindy Gallop and Dr. Kelly Casperson discuss the importance of communication in relationships, particularly in the context of sexual health and empowerment. They explore how women can take charge of their sexual experiences, the significance of self-care in midlife, and the vision for Make Love Not Porn as a platform for positive sexual education. They also address the urgent need to combat rape culture and the importance of funding female-led initiatives to create safer online spaces. Takeaways Without good sex ed, porn becomes the sex ed default Cindy Gallop's background in marketing aids her current mission. Make Love Not Porn was born from personal experiences with younger partners. The platform aims to provide real-world sex education. Gallop highlights the challenges of operating in the adult content space. Communication is key to great sexual experiences. The platform has changed many lives and saved relationships. Gallop encourages people to talk about sex openly. She believes in empowering individuals to create change. The importance of complimenting partners to enhance intimacy. Change in sexual attitudes requires collective micro-actions. Communication through demonstration is key in relationships. Women should embrace their sexuality and use tools like vibrators without fear. Lube enhances sexual experiences and should be normalized. Midlife can be a time of empowerment and self-discovery. It's essential to prioritize personal happiness and desires. Women are often conditioned to prioritize others' happiness over their own. Make Love Not Porn aims to change perceptions of consensual sex. Sex education should be accessible and age-appropriate for all. Funding female founders can lead to safer online environments. Creating safe spaces for open conversations about sex is crucial. https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/ Make Love Not Porn We Funder Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Thanks to our sponsor Sprout Pharmaceuticals. To find out if Addyi is right for you, go to addyi.com/notbroken and use code NOTBROKEN for a $10 telemedicine appointment. See Full Prescribing Information and Medication Guide, including Boxed Warning for severe low blood pressure and fainting in certain settings at addyi.com/pi To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 30% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Empowering women (and the partners who love them) to live their best mid lives. Combining the power of mind-work, body-science and relationships, I joyously smash the societal barriers that are keeping us from living our best intimate lives. Whether you are young or past menopause, single or in a long-term relationship, it is never too late or too early to realize YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. With humor, candor and ease, I break down the stories that we have been told about being sexual beings, to help us play, and normalize our intimacy and health. Nothing in this podcast is personal medical advice, of course.

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  • Creator
    Kelly Casperson, MD
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2025
  • Episodes
    312
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kelly Casperson, MD
  • Show Website
    You Are Not Broken

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